Hi Everyone! I hope you have all been well! I have been busy with work, hobbies and sorting out my many thoughts. Here are my thoughts for all of you lovely people!
Today’s message: May all the good I create, generate more good, circulate and return to me. We should all try to live in unity. In today’s meditation, we will talk about unity, as the basic truth of all that exists.
As individuals, we are not alike. We have different lifestyles, beliefs and perceptions. However, these differences exist only in the physical plane. Whereas at the molecular and spiritual level, we are all one and are connected with the universal primary source.
When we begin to fully understand this concept of life in unity, the idea of a personal “I” gives way to the image of a universal “I”. The concept of rivalry and competition disappears. This relationship contributes to deep love and empathy for everyone who surrounds us. We often get caught up in our differences but in the end we all have more similarities than differences.
We often get stuck on what we believe in and what we were taught. I would like to speak about the many difficulties among the white and black community. I will always encourage people to look at their privileges…. this does not mean you did not have life struggles as we all have a story and that story can not be taken away from each of us. I challenge you to look at your privilege in colour among a racist system, as it is just that. We often become defensive but instead…. walk in the shoes of an individual enslaved. The angry will arise within you, it is so unfortunate colonization occurred but it did. We have a broken system of so many young black men in a for profit jail system…. and as a nation we do not fight enough against this. I believe as a white community we should be standing up and fighting for those who are judged just by the colour of their skin. If this topic makes you uncomfortable than I challenge you to look at your biases. It is easier to look away and harder to challenge who we are…. truly.
We can’t no longer state we live in a fair system as that is not true. When you look at child services, jail systems, court systems, educational systems and many others….that is when you see the injustice. As a WHITE person we travel through this walk of life…. not understanding what it feels like to not getting a job due to the colour of your skin, comments about your hair, getting charged unfairly, being carded unfairly, being consistently judged, afraid of the police…. these are all true stories. When we speak of UNITY….well these are the topics we must challenge ourselves on: anti-black racism, anti-Islamophobia, Indigenous Rights and Truth & Reconciliation, gender identity, anti-Semitism, and feminism. I truly recommend you to read this book but with an open mind…. WHITE FRAGILITY: Why it’s so hard for WHITE people to talk about racism.
Well I will leave this topic there for all of us to ponder, reflect and challenge our own belief systems.
“I celebrate my unity with all life knowing we are all one.”
Write down the phrase of the day in your notebook and keep your attention on it throughout the day.
“I see the others in myself and myself in others.”
How is everyone doing? How have you been occupying your time? Is there anything different about you during this time at home? How did this experience make you feel? I am writing a letter to you all through my blog. I have had many emotions come up for me. I have had childhood friends connect with me during this month which has been nice but also overwhelming. I have lost a friendship during this year, which I am unsure of what has actually occurred but can definitely say it occurred once she became pregnant. I have learned humanity is an interesting form of species and difficult to keep up with. I have a post on infertility as it is something I struggled with but healed my heart from. I of course have shared my struggle with friends and in this current situation it was unintentionally used against me! I made the decision to not even confront but allow the friendship to move to its new journey!
The universe brings us individuals for a reason and once that mission is complete, even if you can’t understand why within the moment, you must release it! I will share that YES I still sent a beautiful baby gift as I was actually so happy that this individual was able to conceive and soon to have a beautiful baby boy! This life journey that we are on is a complicated one and one must built internal strength to deal with what pains us! I also forgave a friendship and made my own amends with her as she ended up very sick and in the hospital! I have had to challenge myself that if you will mourn for someone once they pass this life than you should make those amends before time runs out! I have been able to do so! I am missing my family but until they let me know that they are comfortable with having visitors I will not be seeing them. As you have all read in my past blogs I have many questions about this pandemic and definitely come from the mind set of there being a much bigger agenda…. I will not get into that here! I myself have had a complicated childhood and have already felt that many family units are already distant. This situation definitely did not help many in those situations and this definitely created a concerning isolation for many people around the world. Our seniors would have definitely also felt the impact of being isolated as their circles are already quite small!
I do find the world unfair for many and often carry a heavy heart as I would like to be able to help many and see movement. I have never thought the world would have been full of so many broken hearts and such hardships! I truly wish anyone struggling can find the hope, gratitude and strength to keep fighting. I know many have stories that other’s could not even imagine but there are still good people in our universe. I hope that you all encounter kindness, compassion and a good soul to help you through life! That is my wish for the world and humanity.
This is when I always turn to creating a gratitude life:
Phrase for today: I lead my feelings and choose to feel whole, healthy, abundant and blessed. “I move through my days lighthearted and care-free knowing all is well ”
Today we look at how we can live carefree from judgment and anxiety, focusing on the joy and perfection of what is right now.
By meditating and plunging into the awareness of the present moment, you understand that it is at this moment, everything is perfect and is what it should be. You reconnect with your True Self, feeling lighter and free. Throughout life, you will begin to look at everyday circumstances easily and meet surprises calmly and with grace.
I wish everyone a beautiful Tuesday! I hope you all wake up feeling peaceful, love in your heart and strength to keep going! Let’s throw out our thoughts and dance like no one is watching, allow some fun into your home!
Good afternoon everyone! I hope you were able to complete last nights meditation! I heard that things will begin to reopen up again and hope this will not create more anxiety for others!
Here are a few questions for your journal: How do you feel about this? Are there any concerns for you? How will you begin to feel comfortable again to be out and about? What can you do to ease your mind? What strategies can you create to keep yourself safe and others. Write down your thoughts and write down the strategies you plan to implement.
My heart goes out to all the seniors stuck in their homes, those who were abandoned by staff and those who no longer received care during this time. We had a few of those situations, here in Canada. The military did arrive to help out in managing the day to day tasks and being there for our seniors. The children of these families must have been so distraught and heart broken! My heart goes out to them and I have made a decision that I will actually volunteer my time at an old age home this summer!
My heart also goes out to those that have had a hard hit to their financial situation. I completely understand why businesses tried to open up when they could not. I can only imagine the stress they have felt through this closure. When you place all your hard earned money into a business you created, to almost lose it, is extremely heart breaking. I pass no judgement on anyone that challenged these circumstances or didn’t follow through with what was expected. It would have been much easier for those with their families at home and receiving their pay checks, as not much was effected there. In these situations staying at home was easy but this was not the case for many; with their loved ones in a senior home, working in hospitals, dealing with mental health or owned their own businesses! My heart goes out to those individuals!
Be kind with your words and do not pass judgement, as you share your experiences or head out and about!
Here are some new gratitude tasks to follow:
Mantra: I will embrace the differences in others and be open to their way of life.
I completed a podcast about what is being happy… well being happy is different from things that make you happy. WE have been exposed to thinking that our GENES and environments have moulded who we are and how happy we will be. GENES are related to how intelligent you will be, onset to depression, obesity and so forth but this does not solely space you. An example was that if you watched the news every morning that most people at the end of their day stated that they had a negative day. When individuals started their day with positivity their days ended as feeling positive. When you smile at someone… that smile actually realizes dopamine (neurotransmitter) which then creates a reaction of several individuals smiling. We live in a world that has a combination of negativity and positivity with a brain that functions in a mirror system… so you have to train your brain to begin creating a happy brain/mind! Happiness is not an individual choice. Happiness is an interconnected choice! The greatest change in life is seeing the world through a positive lens!
Two books I recommend: 1. Big Potential: How transforming the pursuit of success raises our achievement, happiness, and well-being 2. The Happiness Advantage: How a positive Brain fuels success in work and life.
These are two amazing books that helps you shift how to actually build a happy mind and understanding how your brain actually views the world and how it gets influenced. When your brain is positive you actually achieve more accomplishments and your body feels strong/healthier. When your brain feels stress/negative it actually exposes you to the flu, body aches and pain, back pain, and so forth. We will always be exposed to stress but teaching your brain how to manage this stress in a brain that knows to feel happy actually changes all the situations. I found these two books to be extremely helpful!
Have a beautiful week and feel the abundance all around you! Feel happy and do not relate happiness to your success! Enjoy getting out, enjoy the sun and look up to the night sky! Heal in love and share love!
Hi Everyone! I hope you all are well and safe! I have given you all amply of time to complete all tasks and meditations!
Today, I would like to touch on trauma… as this impacts many individuals. I will touch on childhood traumas. Though, some individuals can be remarkably resilient others are much more vulnerable to the effects of trauma. I would like my audience to acknowledge when interacting with others to be sensitive to the idea of what could be happening for this person… as many expect individuals to just function. WHICH… is not realistic at all! Some individuals you find to be “ASSHOLES” have undergone a traumatic childhood and yes sometimes we should try to understand others walk of life. I personally… do not stare at someone in public having a difficult time, I actually try to not make them uncomfortable. I see many people just react, make faces and actually make the situation worse. WHY not think… what could be going on with this individual and decide… to act in kindness instead!!! You will change an individuals day or week even!
Trauma is a wide topic but something I have found interesting is about the hormone OXYTOCIN, (how many of you are aware of this hormone) this is actually the hormone that regulates your social interactions, empathy and attachment. It also plays a role in sexual reproduction, childbirth and helps with the bonding of the baby. Oxytocin can be damaged through childhood maltreatment and abuse!
It is truly unfortunate but many parents did not come with the tools to be the best effective parent. I will say most parents have made more mistakes, some damage to their children… than they would be willing to admit. You have to imagine a small child and then wonder what could any of them really do to deserve any mistreatment! In my opinion many children are scolded due to the adults impatience and their own stresses. You must take the time to step back as a child did not ask to come into your world of stress… they are here to discovery who they are! They are not your possessions to be guided to fulfill your wants but to become their own individuals! I have always thought to be a parent must be really planned… carefully and must be something you have time for. Many create a family through their own selfishness and then we end up with so many children damaged. They become these angry adults that; murder, create mass shootings, join gangs, develop low self esteem, attempt suicide… this list goes on! Yes… many of us manage and create beautiful lives for ourselves. Many are able to seek therapy but that is not many of us! I want you all to be sensitive to this as many will come out of this isolation in fragile states, exposed to extreme abuse, increased anxiety and so much more. When you see someone distressed take a moment and show patience/kindness… is my message today.
If this is something you have struggled with, getting counselling that is specialized in childhood trauma would be your best option but creating a life of gratitude can help heal your emotional charged soul! Looking at self help books, which there are many, if you need recommendations… send me an email!
So my friends during your time at home think of anyone that could use a gratitude letter and send them one! If you could create a hand written letter, or text or email would be a way to promote kindness and awareness!
Here are some gratitude tasks for a few days a week:
Mantra during your meditation:
“As I live in present moment awareness I live the magic of synchro-destiny” “The core of my being is the ultimate reality, the root and ground of the universe, the source of all that exists.”
Let your day be filled with joy, happiness and bright events !!! 😊
May miracles appear more often in your life!!! 😇
Have a wonderful day and meditation!
COVID-19 UPDATE (accurate to-date): We are still accepting letters amid the COVID-19 pandemic.
Thank you for supporting our elders during this critical effort to fight loneliness. Physical isolation is important for public health right now, but our elders deserve to feel supported, too.
We’d love it if you’d write a handwritten letter today to support what we do. Please note that we do not accept emailed or typed letters.
Right now, our biggest need as an organization is donations. Due to an overwhelming number of letters coming in, we need donations to keep our Letters of Love program and other programs up and running. If you are able and want to support our elders, please consider supporting Love for the Elderly with a small donation.
We need your help. We want you to write letter(s) that will uplift an elderly stranger!
We’re not all Hemingways, but we can all make something beautiful for ourselves and others by putting pen to paper.
According to a Pennsylvania State University and UC Irvine study, “small gestures in everyday life,” like showing compassion and performing random acts of kindness, help us feel loved.
In the digital age, words on paper are a novelty that we overlook. Letters are something to cherish: to set on a desk, to stick to a fridge, to bind in a scrapbook.
That’s where we come in.
We’re collecting cards and mailing these to elders in senior communities across the globe. These include nursing homes, assisted living facilities, hospices and senior centers with whom we’ve connected. Over the years, you’ve sent us tens of thousands of letters from 66 countries, and the numbers keep growing!
You can write by yourself, with friends, or even at school or the office.
Take a few minutes right now, sit down, and write a letter to an elder (a stranger) telling them about yourself, maybe say a joke or a riddle and let them know that they are loved. Making a difference can be so simple, yet it can be incredibly impactful!
It might feel difficult at first to be writing to someone you don’t know. Our advice: just pretend like it’s a conversation! What kinds of things would you want to talk about to a stranger?
1. Letters must be legible (large print) and handwritten. No worries if you’re not artistic– make your card as what you’d like to receive.
2. Avoid religion. Please refrain from including anything religious in your letters, such as religious quotes, words like “God,” etc.
3. Exclude the date (day, month, and year).
4. Embrace creativity! Recipients love it when the letters are personal. We encourage you to make your letters detailed, thoughtful and heartfelt.
5. Be kind and thoughtful (more than talking about yourself). This is a one-way letter exchange, meaning you will not receive a letter back, so remember that no reciprocation attached is part of the beauty of your act of kindness, and the recipients don’t feel burdened by feeling obligated or being unable to respond.
6. Envelope your letters if you can! It’s so much nicer to open up an enveloped card, don’t you think? If you’re sending more than 1 letter, leave your enveloped letters unsealed and unstamped and put them in a larger envelope or box to send.
7. Share your act of kindness! We love seeing photos of your letter writing, and it helps promote our cause more than you know. Tag us @love4theelderly and our founder @jacobcraa and tag #lovefortheelderly
8. Send us as many cards as you’d like! We accept letters year-round, so there’s no deadline for when you must send them by.
Love For The Elderly
P. O. Box 24248
Cleveland, OH 44124
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We’re run entirely by volunteers who read, sort and package letters and coordinate with senior facilities. While we LOVE what we do, it’s not easy.
Consider taking your giving a step further by making a contribution along with your letters to help us pay for postage and run our other important projects!
Hello beautiful people! My thoughts today are within the world of spirituality. I was born in a traditional Catholic home and over a decade, within my family we all developed our own belief systems. I identify as a spiritual person and my heart truly lies within the universe/planet. I have met so many individuals with so many belief systems, that I have come to understand that they are all valid. I am not able to be ignorant and think that my belief could be the only one among this entire universe! This journey led me to embrace gratitude for the planet through meditation and movement. For many, this is through prayer and to me it is the same path towards a gratitude life. I can be 100% sure that we are meant to be kind, compassionate and non-judgemental.
An example is for instance todays struggles which impact us all. There is so much divide and judgement right now. There are people who feel martial law should be put into action, those who are angry at those who do not social distance & these people agree with the fines/jail time, those who feel this is the beginning of a totalitarian system, those who want to see the numbers & are confused by the information provided daily, those who feel there are so many discrepancies & contradictions, those who feel the governments are lying to us, and those who believe this is all about vaccines. Well, we have been given all of these messages at some point and have information overload… which creates anxiety!
My messages is we need to be there for each other whether you agree or disagree, stop calling people STUPID and acknowledge they are either afraid or have their own beliefs… THEY CAN and will! This is a time to understand, unite and just be kind whether you agree. We have enough people telling us what to do already, we do not have people telling us… HEY you must be scared, can I help you with anything? I have seen a lot of judgemental comments on facebook and I felt I needed to get this message out! HERE we go:
Have you ever thrown dirty looks at a parent whose child is throwing a tantrum? Stared in horror as a teen is acting obnoxious? Nodded mutely at a friend’s tale of career/relationship/family woes and thought she was making a crazy choice? Someone else’s knowledge is not untrue because you know nothing about it, research things when you are unsure, instead of judging them! SURPRISE we may not have had these thoughts but we have had them.
Put yourself in someone else’s shoes is my favourite saying! That teenager could be struggling with mental health or just wants to be free and have some fun! Try to consider situations from another point of view. Remember, you make the choices you do because of your unique upbringing and life circumstances. Be kind in your thoughts💭 !
Stop gossiping. Watching E news is participating in gossip, reality TV, talking about others in a negative undertone, laughing at other expenses… we have been breaded to gossip through our society! Speak of someone in the greater good even when you disagree, the choice is theirs! In today’s current situation… STOP judging those who do it differently from you… I will stop here and let you all ponder this!
In your journal, make a commitment to changing one of your judgemental thoughts. How will you remember this, refrain from this and begin the change!
Today we need the abundance of LOVE
“I place my intention into the vast ocean of all possibilities and allow the universe to work through me.” 🧜🏻♀🧜🏻♂🐬🌊
“Unity to be real must stand the severest strain without breaking.” – Mahatma Gandhi “We are each other’s harvest; we are each other’s business; we are each other’s magnitude and bond.” – Gwendolyn Brooks “We cannot be separated in interest or divided in purpose. We stand together until the end.” – Woodrow T. Wilson
Our world is too beautiful to not be able to explore it’s beauty! The ocean has always been my escape and where I feel at peace! This is a place in my home country Portugal, in the south of Lisbon! I can’t wait, for the day to hop on a plane and see all my family! That will be the first thing I do! What will be the first thing you will do, when we get back to some normalcy?
Hello my dear friends! I was actually hoping to hear from you all… how have you been? Where are you all located and how has social distancing appeared in your communities? This whole situation has had me question many things, as everyday, the government comes out with new ways in how this virus survives. If you pay attention to everything you hear, you begin to hear misinformation and not all information is accurate. When you actually watch our leaders on TV, you notice that they are not social distancing and that makes you wonder?! Also China is almost up and running… their ports are open and many stores. In a sense that makes you hopeful but in North America parts of the world are working/moving and other parts are not… I don’t know… something to make you go hmmm… just some thoughts!
Gratitude is a choice, and we can create it at any moment in our lives. Over time this will become the norm for you, to wake up and feel gratitude for starting a new day, seeing your children’s smile, a phone call from a good friend, a lovely text, and the list keeps growing! Lets begin our tasks you beautiful people:
Even though our current situation is so surreal to me, gratitude saves me each morning and each night! It allows me to forget and appreciate my day in the moment! I do get out everyday for a walk and that I am so grateful for. To be able to still smell SPRING makes me smile! As I have mentioned SPRING is one of my most favourite months, as it is out with the old and in with the new! Pay attention to all the BUDS growing and acknowledge their new growths… new life is around us each day and the NEWS can’t change that!
Lets have some FUN:
“Friendship with oneself is all important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.”
Letters to write: Write an honest thank you letter to yourself… Forgive someone: write a letter releasing those conflicts… Writer a letter about what brings tears to your eyes…
Finally some self care tools for you:
Remember one step is better than no steps. I do not set goals because I’m not good enough or worthy. I set goals because I want to be better. I want to maximize my life and live intentionally. I want to thrive in the things I love and not just survive each day! So I share all this with the world to find what drives you to get up each day and build on that each day! Today is to bring a spring to our feet, feel lighthearted and feel a positive vibration!
Click here for your meditation today:
My friends the beauty of meditation is it truly calms your energy, uplifts your spirit and heals your soul. I recommend having your children join in! Begin with having meditation in the background as they do their school work, eating meals or going to sleep! It is one of my most favourite tools and I wish I had embraced this many years ago! I send you all so much love, peace and joy for all of this week! Turn the news off for a few days, we will not miss too much! Your mind will thank you dearly!
Good morning to our Day 10!!
I am SO deeply moved by your dedication and consistency to this practice for abundance for yourselves.
From yesterday, pick two things that limited you. I want you to now look at a solution to those things that limited you to accomplish things. I had several things hold me back from accomplishing all my tasks until I decided I will get outside and then listen to some meditation and get back on track. I also had an act of kindness that helped change those events! We need to be kind to ourselves when we have these days… as it is okay. It is very important to work towards getting out of that state as it begins to develop into depression. That is the danger and that is not what we want to happen. So we have to dig deep into our pockets and pull out all of our tools! As we have many, believe me, we do! In your note book fill a list of ten strategies you use and WHY?
” Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life! Stop taking yourself so seriously!” -unknown
” Be kind to your mind! Don’t hate yourself for having negative thoughts. Gently change your thoughts. Be kind to your mind! Accept compliments from others without embarrassment. Don’t invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you! Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really love! Praise yourself” -unknown
Write these quotes in your notebook and this is your task for the week.
There may be days when you get up in the morning and things are not the way you had hoped they would be… that is when you have to tell yourself that things will get better. There are times when people disappoint you and let you down… but those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgements and opinions. To keep your life focused on believing in yourself and all that you are capable of. There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life and it is up to you to accept them! Remember to believe in yourself and all that you want in your life.
“Today I make great choices because they are made with full awareness“
Write the phrase of the day in a notebook and keep it in your head, remembering and saying it as often as possible during the day. Start as early as possible so that there is more opportunity to repeat the phrase of the day.
Om Kriam Nama
Message: A great day to journal!
Abundance and the Law of Karma
In today’s meditation, we will discuss the Law of Karma, or conscious decision-making, and see how, by making the right choices, we can bring much more good into our lives.
When you make any choice, you may ask yourself: how will this choice bring more happiness and more abundance to my life and those around me? Having asked this question, shift your attention to the heart, and the answer will immediately become clear.
By practicing conscious decision-making in this way, you will learn to observe your thoughts and make decisions that are more favorable to you.
QUESTION #1: How do you make decisions?
QUESTION #2: How have your decisions affected your life?
QUESTION #3: How can you make a more conscious choice?
Have a beautiful and productive day!💃👑🌸
I have attached a link that brings you to a list of people that need encouragement and some love letters to get them through their difficult struggle at this time! I hope that you will join me in writing some love letters and help provide some love around the world!
We received a touching request for a bundle of letters for Collette as she is facing very tangible loneliness. Her daughter shared:
“For the past twenty-five years my mom has been the caregiver to her father. Last year, he passed away at the age of 100. For the last five years of his life, he developed severe dementia and struggled to do the most basic tasks for himself. For years my mom’s time, energy, and attention was devoted to nurturing my grandfather.
After he passed away, my mom was at peace knowing that he no longer had any pain, but she misses him so much. He was her friend just as much as he was her father. She spent almost everyday with him, and now she is trying to figure out life with him gone. She hasn’t had much time to spend on herself in the last twenty years, and now that everything has changed, I think she is overwhelmed. My family and I would really appreciate help honoring the sacrifice and love my mom has given for so many years. Any words of encouragement, love, and empathy you may be able to give would be so good for her heart. Thank you.”
Grab your pens and let’s send Collette some encouragement + love.
℅ Lesli M.
PO Box 211
Springville, UT 84663
A friend of Mia’s contacted us and is asking for some encouragement + love to be sent her way. They shared:
“Mia is one of the kindest co-workers I’ve ever had. We both work for a nonprofit called Samaritans, which provides grief support for people who have lost someone to suicide and is part of the National Suicide Prevention Helpline. Part of Mia’s job is to help the volunteers when they are on the helpline with people who are suicidal. It’s a twenty four/seven service, so she is helping at all hours of the night to support those who need someone to talk to in their darkest hours. She is one of the most selfless people I’ve ever met, but with this job, she hears a lot of sad news and feels like she isn’t doing enough to help people. I am hoping to send her a bundle of letters to show her the light in the world and to remind her that she herself is a light to those who are at their lowest point.”
Grab your pens and send some encouragement to Mia with us!
℅ Alexandra W.
535 School St Apt 2
Belmont, MA 02478
Andrew’s girlfriend shared part of his recent struggles with the More Love Letters family. She wrote:
“Andrew is one of the funniest men I have ever met. He is a super analytical and intelligent twenty year old. Despite this, Andrew hates school. He is currently in his third year at university and just received several bad exam grades. He has been told by his advisor that he will need to take a fifth year (possibly more) to get into his major and graduate. In addition to these challenges, his mother recently got diagnosed for the second time with lung cancer.
Andrew says that he is fine and that he believes she will get better, but I know that he is very terrified. His mom is the only family that he has. All of this has occurred in the last two months and I can see it weighing on him both physically and mentally. He is so unsure of the future and has lost a lot of hope for himself. I think that receiving some words of encouragement from people far and wide could really lift his spirits and show him that he has people rooting for him. I know that he would be overwhelmed with gratitude if someone out there was willing to show him support.”
Please join us as we offer Andrew the support he is very deserving of!
℅ Madilyn M.
2228 Indianola Ave.
Columbus, OH 43201
Beryl’s granddaughter is requesting a bundle of letters for her while she battles feelings of isolation and loneliness, for a number of reasons. Her granddaughter shared:
“My grandmother, Beryl, has been living on her own ever since my grandfather was moved into a nursing home due to his Parkinson’s disease. Especially at the moment she is struggling with loneliness; she has to self-isolate and is feeling very alone and useless, as she has always been a woman to do things for herself and my grandfather. She lives in a tiny coastal town in Ireland and has one daughter and two granddaughters (including me). She is very headstrong, and she suffers from chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), amongst other things. She is eighty-two years old and more independent than I will ever be. I know she would love to hear from people of all ages during this time.”
Please join us as we share our lives + encouragement with Beryl!
℅ Kerri T.
218A Main Road Cloughey
Erin was recently diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease)— a nervous system disease that weakens the muscles. A young mama of two little girls and wife, Erin loves her family more than anything and has worked for many years as a dance teacher in her community. Erin is continuing to be strong and face each new day and challenge as it comes but we would love to rally around her and remind her that she is never fighting alone.
Let’s all join in sending Erin love as she bravely faces this new season of life.
℅ Megan M.
267 Melba St, Apt. A15
Milford, CT 06460
HAPPY FRIDAY! (Sorry I have been having trouble uploading all meditation videos, that is why the delay, there will be a link that you will need to click to go to the video, I have been at this for two days!)
Despite everything happening in the world today, you are part of change. Change in consciousness and change in the way we manifest. Don’t let fear guide your actions and remember that you are light. Let’s speak of fear, I am going to use what our media has been bombarding us with these days.
Here is the definition of fear: is a negative thought that is provoked when an incoming threat is perceived by the body. The response will be different for everyone and every situation but it begins in the mind and effects show on the body.
So at this moment the news, media which is on every platform (Instagram, facebook, websites, emails, news, postings, and outside in the community) is creating a state of fear, to a point where people’s mental health is going to start getting impacted. YES, of course we need to be aware but not placed in a state of consistent fear. Fear is one of the negative emotions that is in the mind and is easy to beat. Fear is natural to humans, but let it not effect your mind, as it is nothing but the body’s natural response to stimuli. It can become very difficult to cope with extreme cause of fear but conditioning the mind through meditation and counselling helps overcome those fears. This is WHY, I want all of you to participate in these meditations and guided journal/notes entries. AT this very moment we need to balance our MINDS as the world appears different and a bit chaotic. This alone is making us all feel uncomfortable, uneasy and wondering when will our life come back to as it was.
Welcome to Day 6!
Visual TASK for today: According to the emotional brain training our brain is reward driven and our need for love and gratitude should never be overlooked. Also creating a mindfulness routine in the shower creates a peaceful morning!
Please click this link below and it will take you to the meditation video:
I hope you will have fun with using a mindfulness visual task as this is such a great way to get in touch with our senses! This is not something we remember to do! Enjoy your day with fun activities and full of so much love💗
Quote for the day: “ Look at a tree, a flower, a plant. Let your awareness rest upon it. How still they are, how deeply rooted in being. Allow nature to teach you stillness.”
I encourage you all to find a tree and hug it. You embrace the trees energy and the tree takes your negative energy. It is an exchange nature does with you! I hugged a tree yesterday along the Humber river and I felt so refreshed!
A beautiful day to you all,
Welcome to Day 9! 🙏👌I am sorry I fell behind! I started working from home from both my jobs and it has been extremely busy. I also have had my sister stressed, my mom sad, my partner received some medical news that is not good and my sister-in-law is not feeling well! So to say the least, my days have been full! I started catching up on work today, completing house tasks, and now concentrating on my blog! I want to share with you all a beautiful gesture from my dearest friend Jenny (the nurse)… she came to my home and shared lots of love through my security camera, as I was out walking… this warmed my heart so much and gave me the inspiration to complete all my tasks… that seemed so difficult these last few days! Love you Jenny! Just a small gesture can do the world of difference!
I must say… I have been speaking on the phone more then I have spoken in a few years! I have gone to bring my parents vitamins and all immune boosters… as I worry anything happening to them. To my surprise, today they take whatever I recommend, which makes me over the moon happy! I have been trying to keep everyones’ spirits high and also balancing my own emotions. I have not been listening to my meditation with you all… so now we will begin together again!
First I want to share with you all, ways of keeping your immune strong:
This will help your body fight off viruses, flus, colds a lot faster! Okay… so let us get into our meditation tasks, please have your note books! Also let me know have you been actually doing the tasks and practising meditation? I would love to know… if you are not please start!
Abundance and the Law of Least Effort
In today’s meditation, we will look at the Law of Least Effort and how it can support you in being unattached to the outcome of your deepest desires and intentions.
When your actions are motivated by love, your energy is multiplied and accumulated.
The release of this energy allows you to redirect it and use it to create everything that you want to create.
When your spirit is your inner point of reference, all the power of love is at your disposal. And you can use this energy creatively, moving toward abundance and evolution.
QUESTION #1: According to your conviction, how hard should you work to enjoy true abundance?
QUESTION #2: In what areas of your life would you like to get more abundance?
QUESTION #3: What changes should you make to release your desires into the space of universal consciousness – the source of all abundance?
Please describe your mom in the notebook.
If your mother is no longer in this world, focus on her image, join her and write what rises in your memory and feelings.
For some, this will not be an easy task.
If this is the case – while doing it, try to distance yourself from the personal experiences you’ve had with your mom. See her as just a human, a woman living her own life.
”I expect and accept abundance to flow easily to me”
Om Daksham Nama
Have a beautiful day. 😊💕🎈
Welcome all to our 7th day of healing our souls to help us manage through these confusing times! Today I want to speak about finding ways to be able to connect with nature. We have many leaders at this moment directing our daily lives, which for many of us is not something we like or can tolerate long term! So let’s explore ways we can get outside:
Task: please get your phones and journals as you will be taking pictures!!! I challenge you to take a picture everyday and document the changing seasons in your journal. Notice the changes that you acknowledge and witness!
So let’s speak about changes, the spring season is one of my favourite seasons…. WHY, may that be? Well, let’s chat about that! Spring always reminds me of new beginnings… most think of the new year being new beginnings but not for me! This is when you witness new buds blooming, animals awaken, the leaves bloom on the trees, you hear the birds chirping, and people beginning to attend to their gardens. It feels the earth and people are coming alive again! People begin to smile and engage in conversations! Farmers begin to plant their seeds and temperatures begin to rise slowly! My most favourite part is the butterflies hatch out of their cocoons, as do we! Spring brings our smiles, bounce to our foot walks, laughter and the urge to get outside!
It is during these changes that we should look at implementing our own changes! Recharging your soul by cleansing your energies! Our minds are becoming awake to all the beauty blooming! GUESS what… meditation cleanses our energies as well as being with nature! We know times have drastically changed on us but we do not have to change with that chaos, as we can not change this outcome. What you can do is take this opportunity to create change within you as spring does with the earth!
OKAY now we move long to the tasks for the day! These should be completed no later then Sunday at 12am!
“Today I make great choices because they are made with full awareness“
Write the phrase of the day in a notebook and keep it in your head, remembering and saying it as often as possible during the day. In addition, listen to today’s meditation at least 3 times. Start as early as possible so that there is more opportunity to repeat the phrase of the day.
Message: A great day to journal!
Gratitude and Peace
In today’s tasks, we will guide you to think of conscious decision-making, and see how, by making the right choices, we can bring much more good into our lives.
When you make any choice, you may ask yourself: how will this choice bring more happiness and more abundance to my life and those around me? Having asked this question, shift your attention to the heart, and the answer will immediately become clear.
By practicing conscious decision-making in this way, you will learn to observe your thoughts and make decisions that are more favourable to you.
QUESTION #1: How do you make decisions?
QUESTION #2: How have your decisions affected your life?
QUESTION #3: How can you make a more conscious choice?
Have a beautiful and productive day!💃👑🌸. “Everyday I look for ways to express my appreciate”
WOW… we are now on DAY 5! Take a deep breath, and trust you have the time and resources to explore this invitation to share more abundance consciousness with the world! We have time for what we make time for!
So when we speak about time, often we say we don’t have time. We often express sorry for not staying connected or I completely forgot we made plans. I am not saying that this is not a fact but it is not always the case! What is a relief but a moment of sadness… Today everyone is making time through video conferencing, phone calls, emails, and actual family dinners. During a time that our government is informing us to social distance ourselves. We need to hold on this and when life normalizes again that we continue to implement all these strategies, to stay connected!
This is a time to remember the gratitude we have for connecting with each other, to build a routine, to implement healthy acts of living and so forth. Let us not forget the importance of connecting and making time. TIME for ourselves and others!
Mantra: Today we will penetrate the field of all possibilities, appearing in the silence of meditation. The unlimited power of the universe is always at your disposal.
In your everyday life, if possible, continue to cultivate silence. Spend more time in nature, soaking up her beauty and watching how abundance manifests itself everywhere. Immerse yourself in the energy of beautiful music; uplifting and inspiring stories; optimistic like-minded people around you.
By doing this, you will see how the field of all possibilities is widely revealed in front of you to help your dreams come true.
Phrase: Today I embrace my potential to be, do and have whatever I can dream. (Quietly repeat this in your mind)
The Task: Write these gratefulness statements in your journal and take the risks to share these thoughts with those around you!
I want to inspire you to continue, because look at the community we are building. The energy exchange we are creating! 🌸☘Let the love in your hearts expand because you can contribute to the well-being of others!
Love and light to you all! ♥️💫 (Sorry for being late!)
I’m so happy for you all for committing thus far and using these materials to welcome greater awareness and implementing gratitude into your daily lives.
HELLO ALL… we have made it to Day 4 of GRATITUDE and MEDITATION! How are you feeling? How is your soul? I want to share with you all the benefits of practising GRATITUDE:
I promise you if you implemented all of the above you would see a shift in your life, relationships, friendships and what you are willing to engage in. You will be less invested in that debate or having to be right. You will have learned how to communicate, let things go and feel more at peace.
I am a great example of this, when I practise gratitude, I notice a light bounce to my walk and people around me smile everywhere I go. I will tell you I am Portuguese and can be very spicy. Our homes have a lot of activity and communications skills is not our most talented trait! The Portuguese do have many strengths but that is not one of them! Gratitude helped me to lower my anxiety, enjoy everyone in my life and let past grudges go. I do not get this right all the time but I keep trying. I noticed when I complete meditation daily, gratitude activities and listen to mediation music as I sleep… that week is amazing with all the chaos. I learn to acknowledge, deal with what I can and not take things so personally! RIGHT now in completing this for you all I am smiling and I am feeling GOOD! I thank you for showing interest and I made sure to show up each day!
I am so proud of you. It’s not easy to make time when so many things require your attention, so congratulations!
TASK: Write this in your journal, I hope you have done so with the last meditation blog! So when you have those tough days you can return to your thoughts and remember!
Please remember, the more attention and reflection you give to these simple tasks, the greater the return.
OPTIONAL – Write the answers to the questions below in your notebook or simply answer them yourself.
QUESTION #1: What does it mean to you to be immersed in pure consciousness?
QUESTION #2: How can you bring this awareness into your everyday life?
QUESTION #3: How has the practice of meditation helped you connect with your pure consciousness?
WOW… I have given you much to think about! You have till Sunday at midnight to complete all of the above, but the meditation you should do before you go off to start your day! This is one of my favourite meditations as it has so many I am… I hope you enjoyed it!
” Constant rushing is our mandate these last few years, but not only are we getting less done, we are putting our bodies and brains into overdrive, which is threatening our mental and physical health” Stacy Baker
Welcome to the third day and I am sorry I am a bit late! I hope you all were able to fulfill the minor tasks in the last two blogs. Please do not hesitate to leave me updates on how you felt, and what stood out for you.
Let’s start off with a statement, did you know that Anne Frank’s dairy was actually a place where she released her emotions, fears, hopes and dreams. It helped her to stay focused, stay calm, find hope, and feel consoled through writing. This is a time that many are scared, unsure, anxious and we have a new normal. My hope is that these tasks help us through the next few weeks and finds us some peace among the storm.
I encourage everyone to smile at your neighbour, as you grab the mail. If you are out somewhere smile, as any form of compassion will go a long way. Many are starting to feel isolated so helping each other to get through this in a positive light is best. If you are willing and able too, give a helping hand to your community. An example; Kids helpline needs volunteers and this can be done at home, as it is managing their online text messaging. Give them a call and ask how you can help 1-800-668-6868
So the meditation I picked today is embracing gratitude and forgiving. We let go of all that is happening around us today, not have resentment, forgive and let go.
Phrase: What Am I grateful for? Just ask the question and let it go.
2nd Phrase: Today I will judge nothing that happens and let it go
Thank you everyone for joining me on this meditation journey and I wish you all a full heart, a healthy body, and peaceful thoughts for all of today! There is always something to be grateful for. I am grateful for my parents being healthy and my sister taking the precautions she needs to!
“The greater the obstacle the more glory in overcoming it”
With lots of love,
Hi Everyone, I hope you were able to complete yesterdays task, and beginning to feel the soothing effects of meditation. It is a way to manifest thoughts that increases our vibrations and increases our energy levels. We are in times that our media, governments, and current viruses are now lower our vibrations and we must balance this. When your vibration is high it actually helps you fight through diseases, as your mind is healthy and your vibration is high which is where you want to keep yourself at. With of course maintaining your body through healthy eating, physical activity, essential oils/herbs and vitamins!
This is not easy but make that dedication to you and your family. The rewards are amazing! Here is your task for today:
Write your answers in your notebook and reflect on what you have written. Make 3 goals towards being grateful for yourself. Make 3 goals towards building a higher vibration around you!
Write this phrase of the day in your notebook:
“I create my personal abundance from an infinite source. “
ANSWER THE QUESTION “What does abundance mean to you?” If you want, you can write the answer in your notebook.
This should be completed by Thursday at 12am! May the energy of abundance of this beautiful group continue to grow and fill us all! Enjoy tomorrow and take a break from the news, schedule a time to watch the update and then leave it for the day! Please share with me your thoughts, ideas and how this has made you feel!
“The best cure for the body is a quiet mind”
Hi everyone with all that has been going on… to help create some peace, calm our spirits and to continue to find gratitude, where we can: I am going to be sharing 21 days of Gratitude/Abundance…
⭐ Day 1 ⭐
Here we go! I highly recommend doing the meditation and the task at the beginning of the day, if possible. It changes the course of the day! But anytime is better than no time, so commit whatever works best for you.
In your new notebook, make a list of 10 people that have influenced your life and 10 things you are grateful for. Think of those who have helped shape you, added value to your life, guided you in any way, and shared sentiments with you. Have a look around your world… enjoy the night sky, feel the sun, enjoy watching the moon… What are you GRATEFUL FOR?
Complete this process slowly, calmly and take your time to gather your thoughts. Feel your thoughts and resonate with those feelings. Allow the positivity to enter into your souls and create a beautiful smile upon your cheeks!
I recommend putting the phone in airplane/do not disturb mode at this time so that no one will interfere with you (children and everyone around you too 🙂 – as much as it is realistic of course 👶🏽❤)
PHRASE OF THE DAY:
This should also be written in your notebook and remembered during the day as often as possible.
The meditation (found in the video following) can be done before or after the task. It’s up to you!
This is the Mantra you will repeat during meditation:
DAY 1 RECAP:
“Today I behold all the abundance that surrounds me.”
Remember it during the day.
Have a great and beautiful day tomorrow as we embark on this journey together! 🤗
“Come from a place of peace and you’ll find you can deal with anything”
Ah the start of a new year always leaves me contemplating on past situations.
I dread living in the past or thinking of the past as it often brings me to tears. This is always the moment that I realize I still have a lot of healing to do and that is okay.
I encourage others and have all the right answers for those I work with or volunteer with but often for ourselves… NO IDEA WHY… does it not work? WELL, unfortunately for YOU and ME… it is not that it does not work, it is because we are stuck in our own victimization for multiple of reasons.
At this moment I truly encourage all to deal with their childhood traumas, past struggles, traumatic events, mental health and so forth… versus hoping it will heal on its own. The earlier we do this work it makes your life journey that much easier. Healing our energy levels and soothing our soul, is so refreshing, gives you freedom and a chance to enjoy you💗
The hardest lesson for me from time to time… is I am expecting this wonderful friendship or family member to be the person I imagine, even though I know this is not how it works! In my own personal journey it has been humans that have created these moments of mistrust and disappointments. I expect this from the human race as we are imperfect and that is why forgiveness is key. (ON A SIDE note: in the animal kingdom survival and forgiveness is key in that world as well! Interesting FACT!)
Family is not perfection, it has it’s own healing and life journey’s to conquer! Forgiveness allows you to enjoy your family continuously!
Let me state I have actually done a lot of work on myself through therapy, meditation, yoga, essential oils and so forth… it all works together and YES there will be those days or months or years that you just get caught in that cycle of trauma. That is okay, as our tool box of strategies will pull you out of that dark hole. Once you believe in yourself and love YOU that gets you through those dark moments.
This is the song and dance we do from time to time and what helps me get through it is the confidence in myself and my positive self talk.
During these moments: I step outside in my bare feet and step on the cold floor and feel all the sensations. I then affirm the love I have to be alive, to see the blue skys, to hear the sounds of the birds… this grounds me. In this moment I am able to shift my thoughts to positivity and use my strategies to get me out of this gloomy feeling.
I MYSELF have many disappointments in all areas, my own deep traumas but I know they do not define me but are my journey and success to overcoming those moments and individuals!
We live in a place where there are triggers everywhere, so acknowledging those feelings as I have done today, deal with those feelings and move along for the day.
Today I decided to share within the moment, of my sadness and how I work it through without much of the details, which I will share with you… along the way of our journey together.
My line of work was no mistake for me and I made an oath to aways do this work through love and not through my own experiences, as no one situation is the same. We may connect through a similar event but the strategy and feelings will be different.
Though I have my studies, my own struggle through this life journey is what helped me connect genuinely and try to understand the walks of others. It has made me be able to always check my own emotions surfacing when working with young people and to listen to their stories.
Never underestimate your knowledge, wisdom and impact you have of those that cross your path. A caring gesture truly goes a long way.
The strategies today were simple:
I hope this finds someone having a sad day and that these strategies may help you through today!
“Everyday brings new discoveries” unknown“My future days of this weekend: have a daily walk, take a photo of nature and smile at a stranger! “ Lucylu
Calmness is a huge gift. And once you master it, you will be able to respond in a useful way to every difficult situation that decides to walk into your heart!
With Love 💕 ,
Christmas is here, lights are bright, trees are festive, fires are burning and the smells of chestnuts are everywhere! December is my happiest month and my saddest month.
I love seeing a fresh new snow fall…. it is so beautiful to watch from the bay window and it’s flakes fall onto the tips of the evergreen trees. You hear the birds chirping in the early mornings and you feel the crisp air on your swollen cheeks. The tip of your nose slightly red… just like rudolf! The homes have beautiful decorations, flowers, and props. It just makes you smile as everywhere you go looks so festive. The streets of downtown Toronto are full of people, tourists and seasonal activities! The distillery has the Christmas market and the decorations are stunning. There are such unique shops with artisans creative work that make such great gifts. The smell of hot chocolate is everywhere you walk. You see parents, children, couples and friends stopping to enjoy a drink and some food. You hear chatter and laughter and all is so bright!
“It is a gift to see so many families wrapped up in each other during this holiday season!”
I sit with my eyes close and absorb all the sounds, smells, and conversations. Everyone around gives away free smiles, small conversations and helpful gestures. It is such a beautiful time of the year!
It’s a time many connect with their faith, celebrate and give to their communities! It’s a time of gathering with friends and families. You share food, drinks and memories with all those you love. You take a moment to stop and actually enjoy/share time with those you love. It’s a time we stop work, distractions and actually listen! Children/ youth are playing, sharing and so excited to be around their family & friends. They notice the adults are attentive and not stressed! Music is playing Christmas classics and it’s such a beautiful ring tone to my ears! Christmas movies are on the TV and the Nutcracker is in the theatres again! Christmas has always been a time for families to get together and make new memories.
Though in saying all of the above… December/January is some of the saddest months! As I know there are many people suffering and during these moments becomes a reminder of what they are missing. I have mentioned to you all, I have worked as a Child and Youth Practitioner… so throughout these 27 years I have seen the sadness that is hidden in Ontario.
This article is to provide tools and suggestions to help cope through any difficult moments this holiday season can bring up… and a reminder for those who are much more fortunate to help others.
During these months of December/January is when many children are feeling abandoned as they witness others with families and enjoying dinners at different homes. There are youth in the system that have families that they spend time with but this leaves the homes empty for the others left behind. There are elders that do not have families around anymore, lost loved ones, significant others have passed. We have individuals living on the streets that witness the festivities which reminds them of their situations/loses/loneliness. This is also a time that many services give out meals, clothing, sleeping bags, gifts, groceries, toys and the list just grows! This allows so many individuals to get through the winter months. Please take the time to read these strategies if you are in need, if you are not… please be kind to those in great moods or not… as we do not actually know their struggle! So your smile could actually be saving a life!
Hi everyone I am actually going to share a personal story with you all… a bit melancholy, heavy hearted but with a peaceful ending!
Since I was a child I dreamed of getting married and having 4 children, YES, 4 children! Well I conceived NONE!
At the beginning of my 20’s: I entered into the field of Child and Youth Practitioner. I have always wanted to be a positive influence on our youth of the world. I feel grateful in having been able to make an impact on so many youth throughout my 27 years in this Field of work. I have no regrets… ever… I have always gone beyond my job and helped in many different ways. I did this work from love and came from the mind frame that you should think of these youth as your own. Of course always keeping boundaries still in place. I decided to wait to have children of my own, as I wanted to give all my time into helping our communities, such as; volunteering my time, going the extra mile with youth I worked with and being reachable off work times. It is how I see the work and still believe when you decide to work with children and youth it has to go beyond the job itself. I have too often met people in my line work that I believe should have never entered into this field. You have to love the work and at times it comes with a sacrifice. That is my opinion and always will be.
So then the day came that I decided I am ready to have my own family so I begun teaching my philosophy to other Child and Youth Practitioners to dedicate their time through love! So I could slowly let go but not completely!
Well, life does not always go as you plan! I will say this… I had a true love in my teens that lasted for almost 10 years but things got messy and I got my heart broken. Unfortunately, the things that young man did, were not forgivable…. we all have these stories! It is a part of our journey! This is the time I decided to be on my own and dedicate my time to community!
Then I arrive at my early 30’s… I begun a new relationship that lasted for 5 years. Now…. this relationship after the first year… in my heart I already knew… it will not work but I went against all my spiritual energies. I tried to make it work…. why…. you say? Well I got caught in the need to have a family, I wanted a family and how am I going to have a family if I do not make this relationship work!!!!! My biological clock was ticking loudly… I started to panic… I want to have children! Well I had to leave that relationship and in the end I won’t stay with someone just because…. so now what do I do? I am now 35 years old and my heartbreak begins.
I did meet someone that I love and am still with today. I had made a decision I am not going to rush into this relationship because I want kids, as relationships are a process and sometimes it just clicks and other times it takes time. So when we begin to try to have children I was now 40, my thoughts were I should start by connecting with a fertility clinic. Only because it was not that common in the generation before me to have kids so late. For me… this is where I went wrong!!
Well the process of doing fertility was not something I ever imagined and I had no idea how this works. I did ask friends about it but it was not something that was really spoken about.
Well, I learned on my own… and my community of supports became very small.
Here is how it begins: I would be scheduled an appointment for 7am but only would be seen by 9am, IMAGINE that, they packed as many women as they could within that time frame. How do you get to work on time? You have to come to these appointments once a month and you become anxious all the time.Well I did not do well at all in this entire process. I felt like a cattle waiting to be poked by so many strangers and during the process these nurses do not explain anything. When I would ask questions it is explained so quickly and you feel uncomfortable to state that you are not understanding the information given. I was so overwhelmed and felt so alone. Also these environments were so cold, robotic and had a lack of compassion. I am aware today things are better and there is a lot more support being offered to women who have trouble conceiving.
Well as the time passes and no baby, I was now turning 43. I was emotionally drained, depressed and angry… so I stopped everything. I decided if it happens on its own it will happen. I ponder about that decision….. I am not sure if it was the right one but for my mental health it had to be.
On a s quick side note, our world is dedicated to families and parents. Everywhere you look it is about the ideal family unit: in commercials, holidays, statutory holidays, news, movies, radios, within your circle…. if you have no children, WELL, you start to feel like an outcast. Think about this for a moment… imagine walking in those shoes and now pay attention to the world around you…
It would not be a very kind world for those who were not able to conceive and wanted a family. The reminders are everywhere as you try to come to terms with this information or choice.
The topic of adoption, WELL, my partner is not open to that option and that choice you can not force unto others. I also am not going to end my relationship because of that!
Also your intimacy completely changes, you only want to engage in sex when it is time to ovulate. Oh boy, if you miss having sex during ovulation….. you are so angry and hatred builds! As now this is being forced and being timed. This has a huge impact on your relationship and you start to blame each other. Within your own relationship you begin to feel isolated. This is when I started to build anxiety, depression and isolation.
I would mention my feelings to friends and family but everyone goes quiet or do not have much to say. The older generation kept saying…. “ Ah, do not worry, you will get pregnant. You are young.” That would be the end of that conversation.
I also discovered that some friends had gone through this but this was a taboo topic, so you were pretty much left on your own to figure it all out.
The women who initially struggled but fertility becomes a success, WELL, their intentions are good but their sympathy is the hardest. As they feel they have a right to share all of their experiences with you and let you know they understand and can relate.
What those individuals do not understand is that those feelings become different as joy, love and peace now kicks in and that changes everything. FACT they were able to conceive a baby…. I am not! No one can understand unless they are walking the same shoes as I am! It is no ones fault but a tough walk!
I was left to wonder why would this happen to me… I did become bitter, envious and full of anger for some time. I never really knew what these feelings felt like and boy are they ugly. I did not like the person I was becoming at all.
Well I don’t have an answer for that and nobody ever will. It will always just be unknown and for me my body failed me. I have come to accept this and have learned to love life without a biological family.
What stays in my head are what people did say: HERE is the LIST of things said from too many people; both to myself and my partner!
Statements were: Well, what fertility drugs did you do? Well maybe you didn’t try hard enough. Well you guys have been fighting a lot. Well why don’t you guys just adopt. Well I know how you feel as I went through the same feelings. If you really want kids then you shouldn’t be selfish and think of adopting.
Lucy you gotta try everything to conceive or you will regret it. There is no other feeling like it. HELLO, of course I would have no idea I didn’t conceive and I was trying. Famous statement: this is a miracle baby, and GOD has blessed me with this child. They never took a moment to acknowledge who they are saying these statements in front of… I have come to realize when people become parents, they truly became wrapped in a dome bubble! The rest of us must watch what we say about their children… I am sure I would have been the same in some ways.
OR statements as these: you just do not get it as you don’t have kids….. no shit sherlocks! I even came to know that my partner was told; well get a younger girl, if you leave her you can still get a child…. I told him I didn’t want to know who said that to him, as I’d HATE these people who I most likely have fed at some point. IMAGINE it’s assumed that the women is the issue when in fact you just actually do not know that. This part really hurt my feelings and I just thought, wow humanity can be cruel…. well look at all the suffering all over the world and what people have done in war… truly it should be no shock.
See what I mean by, you are left to mourn your loss on your own! Unfortunately, this experience has isolated me and I tend to spend more time alone. This actually made me realize that we live in a superficial world, most people do not care and you gotta be your own best-friend, always!
My heartbreak became about humanity as I have always gone out of my way to be there for others but that is just who I am. I am glad to be that person and have accepted that not everyone will be that way. I am not going to change that about me as I like that about ME. I also know kindness in the end wins and sometimes for the most part… really people do not know how their friends/family are really doing. Hence the rise of suicide, we do not pay attention or listen enough.
Lastly, why you feel like an outcast, well you are no longer invited to parties that include kids or any birthday parties unless it’s your immediate family…. it would have been nice to have had the option to attend or not attend as some years were easier then others. This all created some detachment and distance. Today, I am nor here or there with attending these events.
In sharing all this does not mean I do not adore my friends and family, as I do and always will. It just opened up my eyes and made me tougher to battle disappointments! I have also forgiven all these hurts and let it all go. I never confronted anyone as it was not intentional and I concentrated on me.
On the positive, my sister and sister-in-law all have kids. So I did get nieces and nephews that I adore to the moon and back!!! I have 1 niece and 3 nephews. I spend as much time as I can and attend all of their events! My sister-in-law is a wonderful soul as I get to tuck the kids into bed, help them with their homework, watch movies with them, attend their shows, when they were little change them, help educate them, and it has been a gift to be so involved! My sister, well that goes without saying, she is my little sister and would have no choice but to have me involved!!! She had her own struggles so I do not invade any special moments! This is her first child so it’s a little different but he is the most precious little munchkin! So I have been fortunate and you have to find every moment as a grateful moment! There are a few others in my life with kids that have me involved with no expectations! I look forward to guiding them, loving them and seeing them grow into their characters! I will always be here for them and involved in their lives!
So the good stuff… How I recovered….
To all the support systems please remember this…
Coping skills I created to get through this heart break so I could live a happy life:
I have always struggled with moments of depression throughout my life and more recently with anxiety. I made a treatment plan for myself as healing and happiness has to come from you. You have to be invested in yourself! I still use lots of my coping strategies and have moments that I get sad about not having children but I have recovered and accepted this reality.
I am learning to live a different life by meeting new friends, older friends, and being open to new things. I enjoy me through writing, sharing, painting, scrapbooking, travelling, reading, making cards, volunteering, working and so much more. I learned I am important with or without children. I learned I need to live my best life and want all my friends to be involved in my life, as well as my family. Allow yourself to cry when you need too, accept your emotions and then move forward. I hope this story reaches those who need it!! Please read this entry of mine with kindness!
Here are some links to my clinic where I see my natural path, and journey therapist: https://itsallaboutyou.ca
“Everyday brings new discoveries, so take a moment to enjoy them!”
Below add your info and stay in contact with me, if you need support please leave a comment! If you know someone who would benefit from receiving letters please let me know!
Below is a link to products, books on fertility through amazon. Please take a look as you may find some of these products useful.
Hmm… first a cup of coffee with the design of a heart… to me signifies 💗 and loyalty.
I have been sharing with you all my love for coffee and essential oils…. today I am going to speak about the essential oils I use and their benefits.
Essential oils have beautiful aromas, are from our earth and have medical benefits. Herbalists have been around for centuries, in some centuries they were even accused of being witches and often burned to death.
Many individuals are wary of implementing herbs, and essential oils that have so many natural benefits but we are more then willing to take pharmaceutical drugs, that often come with side effects and can be highly addictive.
Did you know this earth has created an abundance of remedies for all of us to use? Here is an example, prior to me jumping into which herbs help with anxiety and depression…
The poppy flower which produces poppy seeds and has been harvested for thousands of years. The poppy seed has many natural uses: it’s where we get our pain medicine from, used in foods, opium and honey mixture to calm crying babies are a few of its remedies. Yes…. the seeds can be manipulated into heroin through a traditional, labor-intensive method of obtaining the latex, which is to scratch (“score”) the immature seed pods (fruits) by hand; the latex leaks out and dries to a sticky yellowish residue that is later scraped off and dehydrated… which is then made into heroin….. AGAIN…. this comes from our earth!!!! Which actually makes our pain medicine such; morphine.
So here are essential oils that I use in a diffuser and as home remedies:
Also there are many different uses of essential oils. You can add essential oils to a carrier oil and be becomes a massage oil. You can add them to your creams. Many help different symptoms with the right special blends. I will share a variety of their uses throughout my different blogs!
I hope you all have a wonderful week full of love, laughter and joy!
“The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are, and not who people think you are”
With lots of love,
I enjoy watching the water below a bridge, seeing the consistent flow of water travelling among trees, shrubs and rocks. I have always found this to be calming and relaxing. I enjoy the sound of water and seeing the change of colours through the changes from day to night.
It is important to embrace what makes you happy, calm and at peace. I enjoy being among nature and embrace these moments every chance I can. Honestly… I am able to genuinely allow the views of nature to sip in, when I am travelling. This is when I am able to grasp each moment with purity. I am able to see, hear and touch with all my senses. I don’t miss anything as I am not distracted with thoughts, work, tasks, events and so forth.
It is truly breathtaking when you are able to enjoy what is in front of you without distractions. There are moments I can clearly hear the sounds of the birds, crickets, a cat meowing and the sounds of the rooster. These moments are extremely soothing to the mind, body and soul.
We often do not take the time to see what helps soothe us and we all should. I invite you to take this moment and think about what helps create a smile, laughter, create inner peace and help calm your nervous system. In mindfulness the goal is to feel the moment by moment as it unfolds.
Here are a few suggestions to help open up your senses:
1. What’s your routine? Do you walk/drive the same route to school or work? Try changing one of these routines and experience the feeling. What was good about it or what feelings did the change evoke.
2. Pick an object such as; picking a flower, a rock, a pinecone, or leaf. Take a moment to smell it, feel it, touch it, and describe what senses you felt.
3. This should then help you to pay attention to your surroundings. Take note of what you see and how you feel.
4. Listen to the sounds of the birds as you walk outside. As you pass by flowers, bushes or trees enjoy the smell that often times you haven’t noticed. Notice the sky and watch the clouds move. At sundown take a moment to go outside and watch the sunset.
5. Have a daily walk with yourself, a friend, a partner or dog. Enjoy how you feel, conversations you are having, and the laughters you are sharing.
6. Get outside and exercise. Go for a walk, run, biking, or hikes. Enjoy a picnic, dancing among the trees, or swimming in the lakes.
7. Go to the park and take up a new hobby such as; blogging, reading, knitting, painting, or colouring. Doing fun tasks among nature brings out extraordinary emotions.
8. Take pictures of the changing seasons and document what you notice.
These strategies help create a balanced routine and decreases symptoms of anxiety. It helps create a sense of gratitude, love and appreciation for your life.
Recommended essential oils to help manage your stress and anxieties are: Patchouli which is produced in India, Indonesia and Philippines and Bergamot which is produced in Italy. A few uses are taking a bath with 2 drops of Patchouli and 4 drops Bergamot. Also place 5 drops of both Patchouli and Bergamot in a diffuser, which helps create a calming state in your home and helps with sleep.
Enjoy your day and some of these recommendations! Please let me know how it works for you and send me an email with any questions you may have!
“ Every day I look for ways to express my appreciation” “Peace begins within, if you are not peaceful inside, the world will be chaotic.”
I like my coffee a good dark roast, mocha colour with no sweetness! That explains this life journey at certain moments, at times not a lot of sweetness comes with it!
I have worked as a Child and Youth Practitioner for the last 27 years. That is a life time of stories to share with you. I wanted to share my expertises in mental health from the perspective of a frontline worker watching from the outside of an individuals journey in.
I also have my own road with many curbs, hills and bends. It takes many tries, tools, strategies to help maintain a happy human!
We are living in a moment in time with so much BUZZ to it, so much NOISE, that at times your mind feels so CONFUSED without having even walked out the front door of your home. We all need the tools to help quiet our mind even for a minute! Well that is my hope in creating this journey! I will have many goodies to share with you all in this new exciting travel with you…… which is something I love to do!
The interesting fact about this picture is; it occurred this summer on a road trip out to the St. Lawrence River. I set out with my partner, whom I have had a disconnect from for the last 6 months, for a variety of reasons, on a side note….. commitment as anything else in this life journey takes a lot of work! It’s in this picture and road trip that I found my smile, laughter, and the child inside of me again! The wings to me represent nature, growth, and the peeling into a new skin! When you feel the world is lonesome: think of what you are grateful for in that moment. It helps us to see hope and get through another day!
I am grateful for the power of thoughts, words and writing. Welcome to my adventure and please join the ride with me!
With love Lucylu!
Good Afternoon my friends,
Here are the new love letter requests for the month of May! Get out your pens and creativity and begin writing!
We received a request for a bundle for Geneva–a wonderful human. A friend of hers shared with our community:
“Geneva is a special girl. She lights up a room wherever she goes. She is a cashier at McDonalds and her customers adore her! I was talking to a friend one time, who I had no idea went to her McDonalds, and he told me about this girl he sees in the drive thru who smiles and says “Happy Wednesday!” (or happy whatever day it is) every time she sees him. I knew immediately it was Geneva and that another person had been bit by her kindness bug. My friend said her kindness shocks him and makes his day.
Geneva has struggled with depression and anxiety as long as I have known her, but she is a genuine soul who loves hard and never lets the world’s negativity keep her from sharing kindness. Her mom is her best friend and she has been through a lot too. They both struggle with mental health issues, so I think these letters would give an added bonus of encouraging Allison, as well as Geneva.
Recently, Geneva broke up with her boyfriend when his demeaning talk and bad attitude became more than she could handle. I know it devastated her, but I am so proud of her for standing her ground and not letting this guy walk all over her anymore. Geneva needs a love letter bundle because I want to see her receive some of the love she gives away. I want to see her receive a compliment and praise instead of always being the one to give it. I want to help her realize there are people in her corner fighting for her, that she is loved and seen and wanted.”
Arm yourselves with pens + let’s share some joy with Geneva!
℅ Amanda H.
162 Windover Rd Apt 4
Memphis, TN 38111
Brooke is facing challenging circumstances and needs some hope.
This is part of her story:
“Brooke is a magical unicorn of a human, an onion with so many layers, and has lovable quirks to boot. She lights up a room, is self-deprecating to the MAX, and never lacks the perfect words to say. She remembers even the tiniest details and snippets of conversation from years ago, recalling them at the perfect time, to return with the wittiest remarks. This is what makes her an incredible writer and incredible friend.
Brooke is only in her early thirties and was just diagnosed with brain cancer. This has sent a shockwave through her community of family and friends. Please help us by returning love to our dear friend who needs it more than ever, as she heads into chemo and radiation. Especially in the midst of this pandemic, when it is dangerous for us to visit, give her hugs, and show how we care in person, your words will mean so much and help us support her from afar.”
Grab your pens + let’s write to Brooke!
℅ Liz M.
811 6th Street #102
Santa Monica, CA 90403
Betty’s daughter is requesting a bundle of letters for her. She shared about her mother’s loneliness in the following request:
“My mother, Betty, is eighty-six years old. All her siblings have passed away and she no longer has any friends since it’s been so long since she was in the working world. I’m an only child and I live in another city. I see her as often as I can, but I worry about her sitting alone all day. She is a wonderful mother, very supportive and loving. I want her to know she should be proud of that.
My mother is also a feeder of feral cats–too many to mention. She has a darling house that is very neat, but her front and back yards are full of cats and kittens. She knows she’s created a problem by feeding them, but she doesn’t want them to starve. She puts out boxes with blankets for them in the winter, trying desperately to keep them warm and safe. I honestly think she spends more money on their cat food than she does on herself.
I hope you can simply put a smile on her face and let her know she has made a difference to the people in her life, and to all the furry little friends that she has loved.”
Let’s share with Betty our love of cats + so much encouragement!
℅ Julie E.
156 Southern Cross Court
Roseville, CA 95747
A friend of Kayla’s is requesting a bundle of love letters for her during a difficult time. She shared with us:
“Kayla has been my best friend and bassoon buddy for the past four years. She is one of the most hardworking and selfless people I have ever met. She has been working during the COVID-19 pandemic, and people have been less than kind to her during this. For the past few weeks she has texted me about work and how hard it is. Recently, her depression has been dragging her down and her family has been very rough on her, especially when it comes to her student loans. She feels trapped in her house with parents who tell her that she is not worthy.
Kayla is the light of many peoples’ lives, but she sees herself as a burden. I am asking for a bundle for Kayla so that she can see what I see: someone who is worthy of love, support, and all the good things that life has to offer.”
Join us in sending some encouragement Kayla’s way!
℅ Perry R.
229 Augusta Street
Pittsburgh, PA 15211
Krista has found herself facing challenging circumstances recently + could use some encouragement. Her daughter wrote in her request:
“My mom, Krista, is the most hardworking woman I know, she is a super mom! She works as the CEO of our local chamber of commerce and works very hard at her job. She spends her days connecting small businesses in my city, helping them network, and being an advocate for the community.
Since the pandemic has started, my mother works extremely hard, seventeen hours a day, trying to help keep local businesses open and connect them with resources. It is a very stressful time for the small business community, and Krista is giving her all to help as many people as she can. My family and I would appreciate help honoring her tireless commitment to the community. She helps many people every day and is the most loving, kind, and selfless person I know. The work she is currently doing is extremely stressful, difficult, and taxing. She also is dealing with the stress of a teenager, and not having seen her boyfriend or eighty-seven year old mother since the middle of March.
I know that receiving some words of encouragement, support, and love from all over would mean everything to her.”
Join us in sending love + encouragement to Krista during this time!
℅ Rachel R.
170 Summerhill Row
Fredericton, New Brunswick
A friend of Evan’s is requesting a bundle of letters for him as he struggles with some of life’s challenges. They shared:
“Evan is going through a really dark depression. He is pushing away friends and family and not allowing people to help him. He’s stuck. His dreams have been halted. He doesn’t seem to have people in his corner fighting for him because he keeps pushing them to leave. Evan is letting the depression get the best of him. A reminder that love exists in total strangers would be incredibly encouraging.”
Join us as we remind Evan that he is not alone.
℅ Summer S.
2031 Wolfmill Dr. Apt 301
Raleigh, NC 27603
Enjoy writing and take a moment to write at least to one person!! It’s a great way of spreading 💗! Enjoy your day everyone!