When I see a bench…

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(One of my first posts, for some reason it stopped loading, so had to repost it!) I love grabbing a cup of coffee, my journal and heading out among nature. The moment I find a bench, I sit and begin people watching. Have you ever done this? Hahaha… We all have, humans are so interesting to watch due to their many unique traits. Well, as I sit on my bench… what I enjoy most is having someone notice me, and within that moment… we both smile and share a friendly smirk! That small interaction changes your entire day. I notice that I will have a bounce to my walk, a smile on my face, and a positive attitude for that entire day! If only everyday started this way, RIGHT? 
Well, we all know that this is not always the case, there are moments when we wake up with ANXIETY and oh boy does that change the day! So lets talk about anxiety; at times it can definitely make us over-react, have negative self-talk, feel anxious, nervous, uncomfortable, uneasy, isolate ourselves, worry, make tons of assumptions and this list just continues to grow as the day proceeds. WOW, in saying all this, out loud it makes you realize how tough ANXIETY can be. So before I continue I want to TELL you, please be KIND to yourself and realize living with anxiety is by far an easy task. Hey, if this is you, well of course you wake up exhausted! You are dealing with an invisible struggle, that our world is at times unkind about. We live in a time that states to us all that we must be HAPPY, well, that is not always so easy to do. With social media always lurking, RIGHT, it even makes it that much harder. I don’t know about you but social media always paints such a pretty picture, which influences our thought’s at the beginning of our day. 
Today, this is an added stressor for too many of our young people, they have a lot more pressures to deal with and this is a consistent reminder of how unperfected their life really is. Today… I am glad I didn’t grow up with social media mainly because it eliminated one less problem to worry about! As the journey of life is a beautiful one but not an easy one! 
This is the fun part, I share with you some strategies: take a break from all social media platforms, start with an hour, two hours, 4 hours, 8 hours and then a whole day. Pick up a good book, call a friend, go for a walk, get outside, watch a show/movie, take a bath in Epson salt and lavender oil, listen to meditation music, try yoga, do some breathing techniques, colouring and paint. Here are some suggestions to increase happiness: do things that increases your happiness, get sleep, eat well, exercise, forgive yourself, enjoy the small moments, do not compare yourself to others, and give to others your kindness/compliments/help.
I ask you all to try some of these strategies. These strategies help calm the brain and nervous system. It helps distract your thoughts and helps your mind to begin to feel positive, which in fact decreases your anxious feelings. The key is you have to try, make the changes and see which ones work. I continue to make changes all the time and I have become use to change. I do not like change but I love watching the positive growth more. My goal in this life is to achieve happiness and I am now willing to try anything that helps to make me feel better! I encourage you to start somewhere… at least you start. All change truly starts with us and it takes a lot of work. ARE YOU NOT WORTH IT, the answer is YES you are!

“Music comes from an icicle as it melts, to live again as spring water” -Henry Williamson

Music is medicine for your soul, take a moment and try some calming melodies throughout your day!

With love,

Lucylu

 

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